Saturday, December 30, 2017

The 13 Gold Coins Ceremony

(Spanish Tradition - following the exchange of rings)
The groom’s mother will hold the coins and bring them to the minister, upon request.

Minister: The symbolism of the 13 gold coins in this ceremony is that the groom recognizes his responsibility as a provider, and pledges his ability to support and care for his bride. Acceptance of the 13 coins by the bride means accepting that trust with confidence and total dedication.

Minister: Thirteen gold coins will now be counted out to the groom. As I place the coins in the groom’s hands, they represent different values that the couple desires to share between themselves as part of their lives together.
(Minister recites the 13 values listed below - one-by-one - while placing each coin individually into the groom’s open hands):
1.      Love
2.      Commitment
3.      Trust
4.      Respect
5.      Joy
6.      Happiness
7.      Peace
8.      Harmony
9.      Cooperation
10.  Caring
11.  Nurturing
12.  Wisdom and;
13.  Wholeness

May these coins be a symbol of this couple's unconditional love, and mutual trust and respect for one another.

Minister to the Groom: Groom, please repeat after me.

Groom: I, Groom, give you Bride, these coins, as a symbol of my unquestionable trust and confidence I place in you as my beloved wife. As we unite our lives as one today, I give myself, and all that I have, with unconditional love for you, from this moment on.

Minister to the Bride: Bride, please repeat after me.

Bride: I, Bride, accept these coins and assure you, Groom, of my loyal dedication and commitment to you, as my husband. As we unite our lives as one today, I share all that I am, and all that I have, with unconditional love for you, from this moment on.

Minister: In exchanging these coins, Groom and Bride are essentially saying, "what's mine is yours and what's yours is mine". These coins are also symbolic of the positivity and infinite good that the universe has in store for this loving couple.

When selfishness shows itself, grant generosity;
When mistrust is a temptation, give moral strength;
When there is misunderstanding, give patience and gentleness; and
If suffering becomes a part of their lives, give them strength and an abiding love to carry them through.
May the covenant of their union be filled with unconditional love, true devotion, and lifelong commitment to one another from this moment on.

And, so it is.

Friday, October 20, 2017

How To Avoid Corrupting Your Photos Flashdrive

NO PULLINGNever remove a flashdrive from a computer by just pulling it out! That's a Russian Roulette ... eventually it WILL damage/corrupt your flashdrive. ALWAYS use the "Eject" function and Wait to see the safe removal notice (view 4 steps how-to):

4 Steps to SAFELY EJECT: at bottom right corner of Desktop Screen
  1. The first time you open a photos flashdrive, copy/SAVE all files onto a computer or another device. Make a backup copy of them!  When finished, Eject Safely--see above!
  2. NO HIGH HEAT – avoid a hot computer, in a purse or backpack in the sun, near a heater, stove or hot coil, left in a car, a dryer, in direct sunlight for long time, on beach, etc.
  3. NO WATER like condensation or sweat – avoid high humidity, refrigeration, pools, bathrooms, lakes, in pocket while hiking/swimming/exercising/camping/working in heat, greenhouses, humid kitchen or hot tub or fish tank splash, left in a hot/moist gym bag/locker/towel, or hit by drink spills, etc.

Friday, October 13, 2017

Friend vs. Pro Officiant? Consequential Pros and Cons

Some people entertain the warm fuzzy idea of a good friend or family getting quickie-poo ordained online so he or she can officiate your wedding. But there is MUCH more needed for this intensely personal and legal task.  Most people know little about what goes into designing a ceremony, a rehearsal, or what authorizes a person to officiate. Think about it – would you hire a music band that had never played before? Would you want your wedding to be their first gig? Also, you are putting your loved one in a high-pressure, complex, and legal position of VERY BIG responsibility … with only ONE shot at it!  You don’t get that special moment back.

On the surface, it seems a fun idea, however a closer look shows many reasons why this is not a good idea. On the other hand, is it possible to still have a warm, comfortable, personalized (and legal) ceremony with a non-relation? Oh yes! Read on…
Six main reasons to interview and hire a seasoned, qualified, professional to officiate:

1)       In all 50 states, the location state of the ceremony has jurisdiction over the wedding, not your home state. In NC, only a judge or a church-authorized clergy is allowed to officiate a legal wedding.
2) The state courts of North Carolina and Utah have 'judicial precedents' which allow NC judges to invalidate online or mailorder ordinations. If your officiant’s ordination is judged invalid (at any time, even years later), then your marriage is annulled and invalid too.  This causes you, your business, your property, your children and grandchildren very serious legal problems.  
3)     THE KICKER: "Ordained” does NOT equal “authorized”. Many clergy don’t know this legal necessity--some clergy are not authorized to officiate weddings!  Couples need to contact the leadership of a clergy’s church with three questions:
a.      Was she or he ordained in-person or no?
b.     Is that ordination current or expired?
c.      Is she or he authorized by THAT church to solemnize your marriage or no? 
4)     Officiating also requires hundreds of details and skills for a great ceremony. Which ones are you willing to forfeit when an amateur overlooks them? Such as: 
  • knows the minimum legal requirements to say/do to marry you
  • wedding logistics and common sticking points
  • reliable/ on time consistently
  • enjoys public speaking, relaxed
  • gracefully flexible during sudden changes or surprises 
  • calm, patient nature especially around difficult family or guests
  • good problem solving skills
  • friendly attitude under ALL trying conditions
  • controls stress habits (twitching, tapping, scratching, smoking, drinking, waving hands)
  • appropriate attire and non-distracting hairdo
  • neat and clean apprearance
  • 100% sober during ceremony
  • appropriate eye contact with audience AND couple
  • clear and correct pronunciation with correct grammar and syntax
  • pleasant voice, projection without yelling
  • appropriate voice inflection (going up & down in pitch to avoid droning)
  • speech writing skills and poetry skills
  • ceremony co-writing to YOUR taste not his
  • leads or knows standards for rehearsal
  • knows etiquette and proper exceptions for wedding
  • shows appropriate creativity, diplomacy, social skills.
5)     Why set up someone you love (and yourself) for disastrous failure? The consequences of that are pretty high with legal issues. Why not let them enjoy being a pampered guest, or wedding party attendant, or best man, or toastmaster or a poem reader during the ceremony?
6)     And if your loved one says he is already a clergy, are YOU willing to check his/her ordination credentials for the sake of the legality of your marriage? Also, are you two willing to feel vulnerable and weep in front of this person?  
7)  IF the friend is human, totally ruins the moment or flubs the job, are you willing to risk your friendship, or forgive the loss of your ONE shot at your dream wedding? 

There are better, safer options. A seasoned, trained, authorized Officiant knows the ropes, logistics, solutions and obligations. Plus they are a wealth of information! A good one know what works, what won’t, and will let YOU choose.

If you don’t want a stranger officiating, or you want more control over the vows, YOU CAN HAVE THAT TOO!
1)     Ask your other wedding vendors. They are going to recommend GOOD ones for their own good reputation's sake.
2)     Ask among your circles. Ask married folks who officiated for them, did they like it, and specifically why or why not? Ask other chums if they saw weddings with a great minister or officiant.
3)     Search reputable wedding websites with vendor listings. This can be VERY FUN!  Read the reviews of the 4 and 5-star ones. Notice the wording and photos of interesting officiant vendors… do they look, read and “feel” good?

Your ceremony is what your wedding day is all about. Give it the respect and attention it deserves as follows: 

  • Contact 3 or more of the best. Ask for a phone interview, or a meeting.
  • Trust your instincts:  how flexible is she?  Is he enthusiastic? Notice reactions to your wishes and ideas.
  • Speak openly about what you do and don’t want, listen to their questions. Don’t worry if a clergyperson doesn’t share your beliefs … you won’t hire that one. 
  • Do you like how she or he talks aloud? How he looks--he’ll be in half the photos.
  • Does she seem to like you or your ideas? 
  • When you find 1 or 2 favorites, ask for the contact info to the leaders of their churches to confirm their ordination and authorization. If they don’t comply, then smile, say thank you, and walk away.  Regardless of charm, if they aren’t authorized, your marriage won’t be legal. 
Find someone who is on your wavelength, knowledgeable, experienced, their church leaders confirm, and he or she is happy for you. You deserve all that!

~ author, Rev. Margo Ross Sears, as Pastor of her church authorizes over 200 clergymembers since 2006 and she is co-owner and co-operator of

Friday, August 18, 2017

Photobombing, a no-no...

See "Uncle Bob" in this pic? hyper-focused on his cellphone picture taking, standing behind the Maid of Honor and Bride during the ceremony? Don't be an Uncle Bob. 

Friday, July 7, 2017

Use Bright Colors at Beach Wedding

Look at this picture overall (ignore faces). Which outfits look "best" against this typical beach background? The ones in colorful clothes or neutral clothes (left side or right side)?

Hint:  for best results, WEAR BRIGHT, COLORFUL CLOTHES to your beach wedding and any beach photo session too! Your wedding party can wear any bright colors you wish BUT:
white, ivory, cream, gray, tan, beige, khaki, nor light blue (and medium blue) OR any pastels too! ** They all washout and look weak, or even disappear into background of beige, white and pale blue beach and sky backgrounds.

This is true for your flowers too... white and pastel flowers disappear on a white or pale dress and the pale beach background! Choose strong, bright colors or jewel tones. 

Honest & Blunt Advice:  For Brides: the typical strapless, sleeveless white/ivory dress does NOT look good on most body types (90% of us are not tiny and slender). Women of Color:  you got a natural advantage--you can wear the white/ivory colors okay, but bright colors still look better than pales!  

SHOPPING ADVICE: look in non-wedding dress departments, bring honest friends along who have good taste, try different colors and get YOUR style instead--be YOU! IF you just GOTTA do a white dress, then put your fiance and attendants all in bright colors, you carry bright/contrasting flowers (same rules as above), put colorful decor in your hair, consider a color sash or dress accents, and pick a non-strapless style that flatters your beautiful shape!
Typical dress color against typical sand color.

Saturday, April 1, 2017

Hair and Wind Advice for Better Photos

~ ADVICE FROM 1550+ beach weddings experience, so HEED ~
Margo cannot emphasize this enough...Nothing ruins your wedding photos like the hair/bangs of a bride (or the daughter or mom or a bridesmaid) flapping loose, unpinned, unsprayed in your eyes and mouth due to wind whipping because: 
  • It absolutely WILL flop in your  eyes when windspeed is 9+mph - always 
  • Now you have a large, hairy "squid" covering your face in pics!  
  • Frustrated, clawing, hair flipping people SCOWL in pics 
  • all the after poses HAVE to be in the same direction, same background, no creativity, no variations and some GREAT poses are impossible... cuz loose-hair-ladies must face the wind only. Seriously... Margo's photos totally rock... don't cut yourself off from that!
REMEMBER, it is WHIPPING WINDY at the beach 90% of the time!  If the forecast says wind speed is above 9 mph, then fix your hair tightly which means
  • BASIC: at least wear a decorated or simple headband with hairspray
  • BETTER: use bobby pins, combs, flowers, braids, and hairspray a lot
  • BEST for DIY.:  TON of strong hairspray, plus pins, plus combs or barrettes, a tiara, flowers, plus gel/wax and lots MORE HAIRSPRAY!  
  • BEST OF ALL:  hire a pro hairdresser to style it right AND who has experience with beach weddings, PLUS insist on tons of hairspray. 
  • This is true for short hair men too!  High wind means he has Alfalfa sprouts or a large divot in his head in photos. USE LOTS OF HAIRSPRAY!TONS!
And another BIG FYI:  
WEAR your biggest and SHINY JEWELRY.  This is a wedding...its one time only special...and these are your once-in-a-lifetime wedding photos. So at least borrow some pearls, or a "big" necklace, wear shinier, nicer earrings, AND put on a nice bracelet.  Strapless or sundresses:  look VERY strange and bland without showy bling at neckline. Seriously, you look washed out, blah, bland, lifeless, and gives a vague visual hint of not really wanting to do this or dress up for this, as if you don't care, kinda slap-dash...SO wear your showy bling, ladies! REALLY! Even simple string of costume pearls is great! 
Hope this helps! 💖

Sunday, January 15, 2017

Our 9th and 10th Awards!

David and Margo Sears, co-owners and operators of Beachpeople Weddings, are pleased to announce being 2017 ­recipients of two more service excellence Awards in the wedding industry.  This brings their grand total of professional awards to 10 since 2013. What does that mean? This means they remain among the top 2% of 250,000+ wedding vendors.

Voters were 93 former clients who benefited from Beachpeople Weddings photography and officiating service packages, thus ratifying these prestigious awards from The Knot and Wedding Wire websites, two national media leaders in this industry.  Readers may view clients’ vivid commentaries and perfect 5-stars ratings on their respective websites.

Additionally, the photography of Margo Ross Sears made the covers of two regional wedding magazines in 2016 and 2015: Weddings with Pride and The Perfect Wedding Planner, the latter of which Margo also is a featured writer and advice columnist. A third magazine cover photo is currently in negotiations for 2017. See more of her work on 

“We’ve married more than 3,100 people and no two weddings are alike. We attract the most interesting, fun-loving people here at the beach, which is just logical, given the happy nature of typical beachpeople,” commented Rev.  Margo. “Photos? You can see hundreds on our Facebook with more than 1,800 Likes!  Interesting to me… even people with NO wedding plans watch us there just for the eye-candy. They comment and tell us what they think!”

“We are so blessed to be offer these personal services! Our couples tell us they love the warm attention and enthusiastic support we give. In turn, this gives us a real quality of life.  And a part of why our weddings are so awesome is due to the wonderful local businesses to which we refer clients daily, such as bakers, restaurants, hotels, salons, a florist, and many more,” says Rev. David.  

To learn more about the Sears and Beachpeople Weddings, visit

Saturday, December 17, 2016

Sunset or Sunrise Time Advice

As you plan your outdoor wedding time, you want to consider the effects of which time: 
  • temperature (cooler in mornings, warmer in late afternoons–on beach its SUPER HOT 9am – 5pm in summer!)
  • effects on quality of your photos (“golden hour” is first and last hours of sunlight, all else is harsh, shadowy, washed out)
  • early morning or evening times pro’s and con’s (fewer strangers around, quieter, great light, but hard on travelers)
  • midday or late afternoon pro’s and con’s  (midday is super hot & extra crowded in summer, but pleasant and deserted in winter)
  • IDEAL TIME WINTER MONTHS: midday hours 1 – 3 pm
  • IDEAL TIMES SUMMER MONTHS:  Sunrise is best (before 8am) and Twilight is 2nd best (between 6-730pm)
So we share these free links, below, which list the the actual sun times on YOUR possible ceremony date!  FYI: for sunset, you want a start time ONE HOUR BEFORE “SUNSET” time column.  For sunrise, the “SUNRISE” time column is yours.

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